NiceGirl Backup

The latest in my "adventures" in dating, I got the call I've been expecting for weeks. The guy who was dying to contact me off-line and go out has now decided to start dating someone else he met. He said it was a slow start but now it's progressing, thanks for finally telling the truth. He then asked if he could call me if it didn't work out. Well, being the "nice girl" I default to I said "Sure that's fine" and then got off the call as quickly as possible, wishing him luck with the relationship. Of course when I hung up, I wished I'd been honest and said "Yeah I knew you weren't that into me or else you would've tried to end this two weeks ago." I had a sense when he wrote in an email back then of "Are you around tonight?" he wanted to get it over with then and there. Here's the thing, I have a sense of men's instinct to retreat, why can't I get someone who actually WANTS to be with me first? I allow myself to be a guy's second choice instead of his first. That's what I should've said, "No, if I'm not your first choice then I'm not interested." But I can never force myself to say those things aloud. Errgh!