Wednesday, July 19, 2006

Anthony's Take on New Jersey

I love reading those cheesy mass emails that keep circulating the web, rifs on New Jersey. Here's one I had to share:
Ahh, Jersey. Here's Anthony's take on the great Garden State ...
(Source: http://travel.discovery.com/fansites/bourdain/take/jersey.html)

"The First Family of New Jersey"
Paris has the Eiffel Tower. London has Big Ben. There are those pyramids in Egypt. But when you're talking about New Jersey there is perhaps no more significant monument, no more important temple of all things New Jersey than the Bada Bing Club. Tony Soprano's office, by the way. Otherwise known as Satin Dolls. It's a restaurant. They serve food, too. I am not getting back on the tour bus.

So what's the first thing that comes to mind when you're sitting in a place that people actually refer to as the Bada Bing Club? How is the cuisine here? Italian sub. Oh, yeah. Got to have it. You just don't get them right in New York. Massachusetts, they call it a grinder. In New York, it's a hero. Somewhere — I forget where — somebody calls it a hoagie. But where I come from we call it a sub, or a submarine sandwich. Classically consisting of a soft-crusted roll jammed with a healthy mélange of prosciutto, mortadella, capicola, some ham, provolone cheese, some lettuce, tomato and onion.

You only have sauce with red wine vinaigrette, that's it. Maybe you sprinkle a little herb. A real submarine sandwich. Listen, I catch you putting mayonnaise or mustard on a sub, well, the Meadowlands are nice and close. I feel a little weird about ordering the Buffalo chicken wings. However highly recommended they might come, I'm just uncomfortable with the whole idea of, you know, handing somebody money with like, sticky hot sauce on it. It's just so low rent, you know?

Oh, yeah. This is the life. A beer, a sub, and an articulate young woman who finds me fascinating. As much as I hate to leave this place, most Jerseyites have no connection at all to strip clubs and mobsters. What they do know about is going down the shore for the summer.

"The Bridge-Tunnel Crowd"

A small island lies off the coast of New Jersey, identified on U.S. Coast Guard navigational maps as Manhattan. New Jersey natives commonly refer to it as "The City" and have been known to project upon it their greatest hopes, fears, lusts and aspirations. I know I did. So close and yet so far. Story of my life from age zero to 17. Always living 10 minutes from what I still call "The City," where all the good stuff happens. And the city, like any enabling co-dependent, responds in kind. Derisive New Yorkers refer to people from New Jersey, of course, as the bridge-tunnel crowd. Hell, even I'm guilty of it.

Now, I was born at Columbia Presbyterian, so theoretically I was born in New York. But all those wonder years, New Jersey. I guess that makes me a bridge-tunnel guy. Oh, by the way. I don't live here anymore.

Now, before I'm willing to cop to being a self-hating Jerseyite, let me say this. People have been pushing clichés and misconceptions about Jersey since long before my glory days. Let me clear up one misconception right now. Two New Jersey natives upon first meeting do not say, "Hey, what exit?," to identify where they live within the state.

What do we think of when we think of New Jersey other than it as a punch line to a joke? Well, you know, beaches. Got Atlantic City. We have a football team, kind of, but they still call them what? The New York Giants. Jimmy Hoffa might be buried here. That should be on our license plates. New Jersey, Jimmy Hoffa is probably buried here. This is the home of the DeCavalcante crime family, by the way. Upon whom a popular television show, I believe called The Sopranos, is said to be based. New Jersey. I love it. It means something being from New Jersey. It means you have a sense of humor. I spent a lot of my youth driving pointlessly around these highways, cruising for burgers and worse. But there is no doubt about it. If Jersey is famous worldwide for anything, it's our very own first family, the Sopranos. What Sam Houston is to Texas, Paul Revere to Massachusetts, Tony Soprano is to New Jersey.

Wednesday, June 14, 2006

Notes from the Circulation Desk

These are the five things I actually learned in grad school.

  1. You don’t have to do all the reading to make a brilliant contribution to class discussion.
  2. Buying books every semester for two years is equivalent to sending yourself to Europe and back home again at least twice.
  3. Your term papers can turn into one of two things: pure bullshit with an extensive works cited list or a submission to the academic conference of your choice.
  4. Lattes were invented for the grad student to get us through our nighttime weekly seminars.
  5. You really should do all the reading when it comes time to take your comprehensive exam.

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The program director for my MA did not know me that well but she had me pegged when she said, you will not do well in grad school unless you cut back on your hours at work She also said that I needed more vitamins in order to fix my slightly crossed eyes. Which piece of advice do you think I took? Neither. I did okay in grad school, minus that one class where the misogynistic and professionally unfulfilled professor made it hell for my compatriot Faith and me. He is the reason Princeton did not come looking for me this semester to join their PhD program. Plus (ahem), I really didn’t try to get published at all or attend a single academic conference. There’s always more comfort in blaming others rather than yourself in these situations.

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My adviser was a brilliant woman but I never got her attention long enough to get some really good advice. The one time I got advice it was “Get married and have kids.” I politely smiled yet it took me a while to process this unexpected gem. I started to believe it when my female professors had similarly cheerful advice. Was I being weeded out? I’d already invested (ahem I mean borrowed) the cost of a new midsize car so I wasn’t about to pack it up simply because I’d been politely labeled a non-academic.

The plethora of domestic bliss advice did not drive me towards it nor away. Rather it imbedded a longing sense of dread and an existential crisis. This was not the first time I’ve received advice of a domestic nature. My senior year in college I received similarly bizarre advice from my humanities professor during a bus trip to the Cloisters: “Adopt a dog, don’t have kids, the world is over-populated enough. ” Ever since I started grad school, I’ve been looking into getting a dog. I have no room for a dog; unshelved books overrun my house.

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I cringe at the library of books piled up in my office. I know I bought certain books twice, Norton this and the special edition of that. I came to love him in the end, sadly enough. He saved me a lot of hours at the library mostly. Deep down, I have a crush on Norton, can’t you tell?

I got my Masters diploma in the mail the other day. It came in a cardstock case with my alma mater’s logo emblazoned. Thank goodness they spelled my name correctly. I really need to put it in a frame and hang it up in my office with a sign above it that says “Overqualified.” I do feel overqualified to live my life. I should be standing up on a soapbox in Times Square reciting Shakespeare’s Sonnets or something really clever. Instead I spend my down time reading the latest best seller or watching VH1 “I Love the [fill in your favorite decade here] Parts One and Deaux” Maybe I should have done graduate work in pop culture?

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My sister said the night before she and her fiancé signed their mortgage papers she couldn’t sleep. The enormous financial responsibility of a thirty-year loan haunted her sleep. I had a similarly frightening moment when I got the finally tally of combining my undergraduate and grad school loans. Unfortunately I got it in the form of an email just as my boss was walking into my office to drop of an assignment.

“Mags, what’s wrong?”

“Matt, I owe over $30,000” in school loans”

“Nice try kiddo, try having law school loans, a mortgage and three kids”

“Touché , touché”

Wednesday, May 10, 2006

Digging Deeper

Digging Deeper

Is the blog of my new friend's Jill & Cassie. Their words are the ones I cannot say about my life as a Christian. They've intensely studied His Word and for that I am grateful.

Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Master Of.....

I got my exam results via e-mail last week. I got a "Pass" which is the second highest score you can get on Rutgers MA Exam! It's a relief to say the least. Everyone who knows what I've been going through the last 2.5 years was thrilled with my success! And of course their very legitimate follow-up question is, what's next?

Well I have nothing definitive set. I'd love to jump into teaching at my local community college but so far they've overhired or only have spots open to teach in the morning or early afternoon. That doesn't work with my schedule, unfortunately! And even though I like to write I have no contacts to pick up some freelance work. Basically I either have to majorly step up my own job seekers campaign or wait each semester to find out what job openings there are at the college.

In the meantime, I'm very relieved to have my social life nearly fully restored state. Frankly it's better than ever so I'm thrilled about that! Meeting new people all the time which leads to more dating opportunities ;-). I'm reading a lot more just to keep my mind sharp and up on the latest everything...

Tuesday, April 04, 2006

My Fabulous Birthday Party



On Friday, March 24th, I invited a bunch of my friends out for dinner at Havana Central on W. 46th Street. We ate a lot and everyone from the various facets of my social circle got to know each other better! There's was birthday flan with a yellow candle, of course. And there were cute presents, two purses, hair accesories, and a Starbucks gift card.

After dinner, we had dessert at Ben& Jerry's. Then the last stop with just the Jerry's and Rich was the House of Brews. I made it to the last train with 10 minutes to spare, whew!






Picture Three: My girlfriends from recently and wayback!
Picture Two: My best friend from college and her posse (sister, fiance, coworker)
Picture One: The Jerry(s), Rich, and Dave from the Liquid church, Rutgers, family extension.

Thursday, January 26, 2006

Any Bright Ideas?

Picture Caption: SW Bowne Hall, Drew University, my Academic Building from the undergrad years

I'm taking a break (okay so I take a lot of them!) from studying for my MA exam, less than two months away. Even though I know I'm going to pass, somehow I still don't certain of how much studying is enough for this.

My boss saw SparkNotes on my desk and was teasing me about taking this approach to studying. I truly believe SparkNotes could save my life at present because all I really need is the broader picture not the nitty gritty that I usually lose anyway from reading. I usually don't go for minute reading comprehension but I can hold my own in a larger discussion.

For example, a few month ago, I was at a symposium during my college reunion on the new MoMA. I had not yet been but managed to jump in and shake up the discussion a little bit. Mind you I was on the lower age end of the group and the people that argued against me for elitest snobs my alma mater is probably notorious for.

Oh but I digress...

I spent half of last weekend throwing away the papers from the last six and a half years of my academic life. I was saving them for an occasion such as teaching or at present my MA exam. However, I found most of my notes to "in the moment" and decided that only two courses I've taken had applicable notes. Last night, the rest of my laborious note-taking (class notes, then later re-writes into what I called "master notes) went to the curbside to get recycled. What in the world with the center think when they see all that?

My senior thesis...draft after draft... the notes on paintings I can't even remember anymore...and at least 3 readings of "Hamlet" good grief I truly loathe that play.

I've been musing half-heartedly about making this brief but increasingly profound experience into a novella. It begins at the curb and ends when I make my final student loan repayment when I'm like 60.

As usual with me...stayed tuned!
Mags

Monday, December 12, 2005

DMB at the Garden


I went to my second DMB show of 2005 on Friday night with my B&N friend, Jenn. It was her turn to get the tixs. We thought getting them through the Warehouse (DMB's fan club) would get us closer to Stefan (yes there's is more to DMB than Dave) but alas we were on Butch Taylor's side (nice funky shirt Butch!). Anyway, we got there very early so it was cool to watch the Garden fill up.
The band that opened, Soul Live, featured a lot of James Brown attitude and sky high afros. DMB came on for their set around 8:45 and played through 'til 10:45. They took their sweet time getting back for an encore but I think they were really tired because there were long gaps in between the songs.
Here's the set list from the show
Cheers!
Mags

Friday Dec 9 2005
Madison Square Garden

Recently *
Granny

Everyday

Dream Girl

Don’t Burn The Pig

Crash

Hunger For The Great Light
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Where Are You Going

American Baby Intro
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All Along The Watchtower
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Louisiana Bayou
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Stand Up
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Old Dirt Hill

Too Much
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Stay
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__________________

Christmas Song

Two Step



Show Notes:
* Rashawn Ross